Well, looking over my oeuvre I see that almost everything had some bit of power exchange and/or SM. Sometimes it is as little as hair pulling or spanking. Somethings it’s far more. I’m not sure what vanilla means anymore. There are only a few of my stories that involve public BDSM, formal titles/relationships, service, etc.
As for your life/sex life, I couldn’t imagine getting turned on by something (consensual) and never trying it.
Anyhow, here are three “vanilla-ish” stories I’ve written. At least, I think they are vanilla-ish.